So I set out today not knowing what I was going to write. This wasn’t because I didn’t know what to write, I just had too much on my mind…
Humans are very complex and every pain or hurt we experience today is of our own making. We were created in the likeness of a peaceful and loving God, I wonder how we became this wicked. The Lord gave us power and dominion to rule over things on earth but what did we do? We used our powers to become slaves to the things on earth. The Lord gave us free will to discern good from evil but we used the freewill to create mayhem in our world. We were created superior than the beasts in the field but today, some of us act worse than those beasts. Look at what has become of our world today; no day goes by without hearing of some murder, crime, rape, robbery… We have become a shadow of ourselves without even knowing it
I still marvel at how a person can take the life of another so easily. How can one who isn’t guaranteed the next breath, think it wise to cut short the life of another? Absurd! Strange! Sad! If you have no power to give life, why on earth do you think it wise to take another? People are dying every day like chickens and at this rate, I wonder why the Lord hasn’t wiped us all out in anger because you see, HE has the power to do so. He doesn’t have to explain it to us, take our permission or apologize for it. HE created us and HE can very well end HIS creation but He hasn’t. That got me thinking….
Just the other day I was listening to a song on the radio and the lyrics went something like this; “…HE sent HIS only Son to die for us, HE didn’t have to but HE did… HE could have sent a legion of angels in HIS place but HE chose to send HIS son…” Now that also got me thinking…. HE sees the end of a thing before it begins so surely HE knew that the human race was going to be a great disappointment but HE still sent HIS Son. You cannot explain such love and sacrifice and it makes me wonder; how on earth can anyone say there is no God? Or how can you say you serve this God of love, yet hate your fellow human being so badly?
I open the newspapers and all I read about is war, cyber crime, riots, babies abandoned in the refuse bin, people dying from hunger, corruption, looting of public funds, scams…etc. It all has to stop!!! When will we realize that at the end of the day, what will count is our contribution to the society/world? Are we going to leave the world a better place for our kids or not? We are answerable to a higher being and HIS plans for us are of peace and not of evil. Do we not know that love is a stronger weapon than hate? Do we not know that no one is better than the other and we are all equal in HIS eyes? Do we not know that no one is promised tomorrow? Do we not know that there is a piece of God in all of us?
My heart is very heavy from the things I see today and I am afraid that if care is not taken, things may get worse. It is even more painful when you see children roped into these evil acts that they have learnt from adults. We have deprived them of their innocence and forced them into early adulthood.
Let me make this clear, killing isn’t only physical. In fact, most of the damage done today is psychological. Most people walk around today with a broken heart, a scar, shattered dreams… all because some other person decided to play god.
It takes a lot of energy to hate but a lot less to love. When we love, we forgive. When we love, we help. When we love, we protect not destroy. When we love, we see ourselves in the other person. WHEN WE LOVE, WE TRULY LIVE!
Stay Strong!
24 Sept 2012
18 Sept 2012
FOR THE LOVE OF SHOES!!!!!
Hello friends, I apologize for the break in transmission. Several road trips and unstable internet connection resulted to no blogging :)
So back to today’s’ post, Just the other day, a very dear friend wanted to know what my hobbies where and my favorite things in the world. I thought to myself “well that’s really easy. I love to eat out occasionally at a nice cozy good restaurant. My love for pasta knows no bounds and a glass of very good red wine will just complete the meal :) As for my favorite things, I guess shoes and bags are it! Scratch that, I love shoes more!! :)))
You know that feeling when you walk into a shoe store and time stands still for you? When it seems like all the shoes are speaking to you, trying to get you to try them on? Well, that’s a wonderful feeling and I get that every time I walk into a shoe store. First off, I check out the ‘high heels section’. I am more of 6-8 inches, pencil heels lady. I’m not a big fan of “block heels” but love me some ‘wedges” occasionally. Great pair of shoes has a way of completing an otherwise frumpy look. It gives you that attitude, that confidence and not to mention elegance :)
Usually when I go window shopping, I try to avoid shoe stores but even when I walk by and struggle not to see them, they seem to call out my name. It’s really hard. Sometimes, I tell myself that it’s okay to just take a peek. After all, there’s no harm in day dreaming. However, the mistake I always make is that I try them on. Once I have them on my feet, it feels like my life will be incomplete if I left the store without them. So I came up with another game plan, never to go window shopping with my credit card.
Once, I saw a lovely pair of shoes online and decided to go get them from the store later on in the week. Long story short, I got to the store and left with 3 pairs of shoes instead of one. So I made a mental note, “I had better stick to online shopping”. Order and have it delivered to my doorstep.
My mother thinks it’s an obsession, I happen to believe it’s just a necessity. I look at every pair of shoes I have and can hardly imagine not having any one of them. Unfortunately my love of shoes also extends to guys. The first thing I notice in a guy at our first meeting are his pair of shoes. That singular act has in the past contributed to my decision of whether or not to have a second meeting with the guy. Some people may call me vain right now but truth be told, isn’t there something really sexy about a guy who has wonderful dress sense and lovely pair of shoes to go with it? Abi, you wan tell me say if your guy come take you out with all dem “boat shaped” Aba made shoes, u no go hide ya face? Abegi, make I hear word! Seriously though, as important shoes are, abeg they are not a recipe to wonderful relationships. If e dey affect you like me and you like the guy, gently nudge him to get better stylish shoes or kukuma buy them for him. All na investment! :)
Overtime, I have realized that the shoes don’t have to be overly expensive to look beautiful. Trust me; I have seen really ugly expensive shoes. I guess it’s all about your style, taste and how you combine them with your outfit. Some shoes give your legs that extra lift, some make them look smaller others are just made to give you that extra bounce in your steps. Whatever our style, they need to be clean, well kept and stylish.
So lately I’ve been pondering, if people say you need to study or work in the area that gives you great joy; FOR THE LOVE OF SHOES, can’t we have a course known as SHOEOLOGY? Which according to my dictionary will mean, “The study of shoes and the positive impact on the Human race”? :)
I know I could go into the sales of shoes but knowing me, I’ll just end up keeping all the shoes to myself. So the only option is to go for a course on shoes and later lecture others who are interested in this very important life changing subject. :)
Have a fantastic week!
Stay Strong!
So back to today’s’ post, Just the other day, a very dear friend wanted to know what my hobbies where and my favorite things in the world. I thought to myself “well that’s really easy. I love to eat out occasionally at a nice cozy good restaurant. My love for pasta knows no bounds and a glass of very good red wine will just complete the meal :) As for my favorite things, I guess shoes and bags are it! Scratch that, I love shoes more!! :)))
You know that feeling when you walk into a shoe store and time stands still for you? When it seems like all the shoes are speaking to you, trying to get you to try them on? Well, that’s a wonderful feeling and I get that every time I walk into a shoe store. First off, I check out the ‘high heels section’. I am more of 6-8 inches, pencil heels lady. I’m not a big fan of “block heels” but love me some ‘wedges” occasionally. Great pair of shoes has a way of completing an otherwise frumpy look. It gives you that attitude, that confidence and not to mention elegance :)
Usually when I go window shopping, I try to avoid shoe stores but even when I walk by and struggle not to see them, they seem to call out my name. It’s really hard. Sometimes, I tell myself that it’s okay to just take a peek. After all, there’s no harm in day dreaming. However, the mistake I always make is that I try them on. Once I have them on my feet, it feels like my life will be incomplete if I left the store without them. So I came up with another game plan, never to go window shopping with my credit card.
Once, I saw a lovely pair of shoes online and decided to go get them from the store later on in the week. Long story short, I got to the store and left with 3 pairs of shoes instead of one. So I made a mental note, “I had better stick to online shopping”. Order and have it delivered to my doorstep.
My mother thinks it’s an obsession, I happen to believe it’s just a necessity. I look at every pair of shoes I have and can hardly imagine not having any one of them. Unfortunately my love of shoes also extends to guys. The first thing I notice in a guy at our first meeting are his pair of shoes. That singular act has in the past contributed to my decision of whether or not to have a second meeting with the guy. Some people may call me vain right now but truth be told, isn’t there something really sexy about a guy who has wonderful dress sense and lovely pair of shoes to go with it? Abi, you wan tell me say if your guy come take you out with all dem “boat shaped” Aba made shoes, u no go hide ya face? Abegi, make I hear word! Seriously though, as important shoes are, abeg they are not a recipe to wonderful relationships. If e dey affect you like me and you like the guy, gently nudge him to get better stylish shoes or kukuma buy them for him. All na investment! :)
Overtime, I have realized that the shoes don’t have to be overly expensive to look beautiful. Trust me; I have seen really ugly expensive shoes. I guess it’s all about your style, taste and how you combine them with your outfit. Some shoes give your legs that extra lift, some make them look smaller others are just made to give you that extra bounce in your steps. Whatever our style, they need to be clean, well kept and stylish.
So lately I’ve been pondering, if people say you need to study or work in the area that gives you great joy; FOR THE LOVE OF SHOES, can’t we have a course known as SHOEOLOGY? Which according to my dictionary will mean, “The study of shoes and the positive impact on the Human race”? :)
I know I could go into the sales of shoes but knowing me, I’ll just end up keeping all the shoes to myself. So the only option is to go for a course on shoes and later lecture others who are interested in this very important life changing subject. :)
Have a fantastic week!
Stay Strong!
3 Sept 2012
DEAR PRINCE CHARMING…
Hello dear friends, I trust y’all are doing okay. Today’s’ post was influenced by the age old “myth” that most young ladies have fallen for. This myth is so strong that it cuts across all races… Every young lady gets to that point when all she waits for is her “Prince Charming” to come for her in “shining armor riding on a white horse” :)
I have decided to “write a letter” to this “Prince Charming” to find out who he really is and why he tends to keep us ladies waiting. As we all know, it is not proper to keep a lady waiting…
Dear Prince Charming,
I trust you are doing well? I have heard so much about you and I really can’t wait to meet you. I hear you are “Tall, Dark and handsome”, you have a wonderful job, drive a really cool car and you live in the best neighborhood in town. I can imagine that you’ve been very busy touring the whole world, that’s why we haven’t met yet. I am told that you have a wonderful sense of humor and your smile lights up a room. I understand that you don’t drink or smoke, you are respectful, courteous, selfless…etc, not obsessed with football and you love shopping!
I really can’t wait to meet you. I have dreamt of you for a very long time, trying to imagine you “waltz” into my life and ‘sweep me off my feet”. However, I wonder what’s taking you so long? I have been waiting for you for a very long time now, so many other men have approached me but I didn’t even give them the time of the day. They were too short, too fat, too thin, not wealthy enough, addicted to football, not learned enough, no sense of humor …etc. They just weren’t good enough, they were not you. Now I’m getting older and my friends tell me that you may not show up anymore and even if you did, you may not like me because with age, my tummy isn’t as flat as it used to be, I have a few wrinkles here and there… However, I don’t think that’s my fault. If you had shown up earlier, at the time I was still very young, you probably won’t have seen these minor issues.
Anyway, I’m only writing to tell you to show up soonest. I have waited for you all my life and I’m beginning to fear that you won’t show up. It is really not nice to keep a lady waiting. We need to start our “picture perfect” family soonest and you know I can’t do that on my own, I need you. One more thing, can you please send me a reply? I’ll like to be sure that you got my letter.
Your Future Wife,
Me! :)
So after “Prince Charming” receives the letter, he decides to send a reply. …
Dear Future Wife,
I am very well, thank you. I trust you are too. I received your letter and based on your request, I decided to reply. What I’m about to write may be very painful to you but it’s the truth and I think it’s about time you know it.
I am afraid you have been fooled all your life. I am not all you expect me to be. If I were, that will make me perfect and I am far from it. I may not look like Denzel Washington or Will Smith but I love you from the depth of me. I love to watch football matches with friends but that doesn’t mean you are not the most important person in my life (of course after God and my mother). I could take you shopping anytime you want but I’ll have to make the money first. My priority is to get a good job, buy a car and rent a house in a nice clean neighborhood. We could start with a mini flat and with you by my side and your support; we will have our own house someday in the nearest future. I love you and with that, is respect and selflessness. However, please bear with me when I sometimes mistakenly hurt you. I am only human and I’ll make mistakes but always remember that I have made it my job to take care of you the best way I know how and when I stray, please understand and correct me in love. Unfortunately, all that is in the past now…
I am sorry you feel like I have kept you waiting for so long but that wasn’t my intention. I approached you 3 years ago but you didn’t even give me the opportunity to speak. That didn’t stop me because I kept running after you for 1 year but all you told me was that, I was too short, too fat, too poor and lacked the finesse you required from your man. On hearing all that and after fighting for you for about a year, with pain in my heart; I had to leave but I still thought about you for a very long time.
Right now, I am happily married with two kids. I own a consulting firm, live in the best neighborhood in town and I drive the best cars. I have become the fantasy you had with the help of another woman…my wife. It could have been you but you were not patient enough to wait for me.
It is still not too late for you to find your life partner. Now that you know that all you’ve believed is a myth, give the next reasonable man that shows up in your life a chance. The fairy tale doesn’t exist but the good thing is that you can make that “man” in your life your “Prince Charming”. Prince Charming can also be short, fat, and sweep you off your feet in a “danfo” bus. What matters is his heart and genuine affection for you. When that is in place, you are on your way to paradise.
Regards,
“Prince Charming”
So my dear friends, I’m not saying you should compromise your stand or settle for less, all I’m saying is that sometimes “big things come in small packages”. Do not let your “Prince Charming” pass you by, all in your quest for fantasies. As for the guys, also work on yourselves. It’s not all about money, looks or material things but trust me, there’s something very sexy about a man who is respectful, courteous, selfless, honest, and has a vision. Relationships are like partnerships, both parties have to bring something meaningful to the “table” to make it work.
Stay Strong!
I have decided to “write a letter” to this “Prince Charming” to find out who he really is and why he tends to keep us ladies waiting. As we all know, it is not proper to keep a lady waiting…
Dear Prince Charming,
I trust you are doing well? I have heard so much about you and I really can’t wait to meet you. I hear you are “Tall, Dark and handsome”, you have a wonderful job, drive a really cool car and you live in the best neighborhood in town. I can imagine that you’ve been very busy touring the whole world, that’s why we haven’t met yet. I am told that you have a wonderful sense of humor and your smile lights up a room. I understand that you don’t drink or smoke, you are respectful, courteous, selfless…etc, not obsessed with football and you love shopping!
I really can’t wait to meet you. I have dreamt of you for a very long time, trying to imagine you “waltz” into my life and ‘sweep me off my feet”. However, I wonder what’s taking you so long? I have been waiting for you for a very long time now, so many other men have approached me but I didn’t even give them the time of the day. They were too short, too fat, too thin, not wealthy enough, addicted to football, not learned enough, no sense of humor …etc. They just weren’t good enough, they were not you. Now I’m getting older and my friends tell me that you may not show up anymore and even if you did, you may not like me because with age, my tummy isn’t as flat as it used to be, I have a few wrinkles here and there… However, I don’t think that’s my fault. If you had shown up earlier, at the time I was still very young, you probably won’t have seen these minor issues.
Anyway, I’m only writing to tell you to show up soonest. I have waited for you all my life and I’m beginning to fear that you won’t show up. It is really not nice to keep a lady waiting. We need to start our “picture perfect” family soonest and you know I can’t do that on my own, I need you. One more thing, can you please send me a reply? I’ll like to be sure that you got my letter.
Your Future Wife,
Me! :)
So after “Prince Charming” receives the letter, he decides to send a reply. …
Dear Future Wife,
I am very well, thank you. I trust you are too. I received your letter and based on your request, I decided to reply. What I’m about to write may be very painful to you but it’s the truth and I think it’s about time you know it.
I am afraid you have been fooled all your life. I am not all you expect me to be. If I were, that will make me perfect and I am far from it. I may not look like Denzel Washington or Will Smith but I love you from the depth of me. I love to watch football matches with friends but that doesn’t mean you are not the most important person in my life (of course after God and my mother). I could take you shopping anytime you want but I’ll have to make the money first. My priority is to get a good job, buy a car and rent a house in a nice clean neighborhood. We could start with a mini flat and with you by my side and your support; we will have our own house someday in the nearest future. I love you and with that, is respect and selflessness. However, please bear with me when I sometimes mistakenly hurt you. I am only human and I’ll make mistakes but always remember that I have made it my job to take care of you the best way I know how and when I stray, please understand and correct me in love. Unfortunately, all that is in the past now…
I am sorry you feel like I have kept you waiting for so long but that wasn’t my intention. I approached you 3 years ago but you didn’t even give me the opportunity to speak. That didn’t stop me because I kept running after you for 1 year but all you told me was that, I was too short, too fat, too poor and lacked the finesse you required from your man. On hearing all that and after fighting for you for about a year, with pain in my heart; I had to leave but I still thought about you for a very long time.
Right now, I am happily married with two kids. I own a consulting firm, live in the best neighborhood in town and I drive the best cars. I have become the fantasy you had with the help of another woman…my wife. It could have been you but you were not patient enough to wait for me.
It is still not too late for you to find your life partner. Now that you know that all you’ve believed is a myth, give the next reasonable man that shows up in your life a chance. The fairy tale doesn’t exist but the good thing is that you can make that “man” in your life your “Prince Charming”. Prince Charming can also be short, fat, and sweep you off your feet in a “danfo” bus. What matters is his heart and genuine affection for you. When that is in place, you are on your way to paradise.
Regards,
“Prince Charming”
So my dear friends, I’m not saying you should compromise your stand or settle for less, all I’m saying is that sometimes “big things come in small packages”. Do not let your “Prince Charming” pass you by, all in your quest for fantasies. As for the guys, also work on yourselves. It’s not all about money, looks or material things but trust me, there’s something very sexy about a man who is respectful, courteous, selfless, honest, and has a vision. Relationships are like partnerships, both parties have to bring something meaningful to the “table” to make it work.
Stay Strong!
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