Hello!!!! Please excuse my long absence as i've been over my head with work. I'm not even married yet, not to talk of having kids and still i barely have time for myself. I really need to work on my time management if i plan to be a "Career wife and mom". Are there single ladies in the house that identify with what i'm talking about?
Anyway, i know that this "feat" will not be solved on it's own; i will need Gods' divine intervention and guidance to see me through. In the past, i noticed a trend where women just sat home and took care of children whilst their husbands had the job of "providing" for the home. Although i have nothing against this trend, i also believe there is a reason that couples are called "Partners". A lot of people will argue that the lady is also partnering with her husband even when carrying out only domestic duties, that she doesn't necessarily have to work. Whilst i agree with that, my question is "Is she less of a partner when she decides to bring some income into the home"? My discussions with working class wives have shown me that it isn't an easy job at all but not impossible. Infact some of them are fulfilled and don't run the risk of playing the "Had i known game".
I know this is a very "touchy" topic and whichever way it swings, each party will be right but since it's my blog, i'll be discussing my own take on the issue :) Now imagine a lady that is career minded, has a zeal to touch/affect lives, is more than willing to contribute financially to the growth of her home, is used to getting things done for herself and wants to be a complete woman in all ramifications of life. Imagine this woman being mandated to become a complete house wife. Why? Because her partner believes that he earns more than enough to sustain the home & that her place is with the kids.... Will such a woman give her very best to the home? Will she be fulfilled? Won't she be more prone to nagging? Won't she be likely to make life a "living hell" for her partner? I'm not justifying women that have the above mentioned characteristics, i'm just saying that indeed "there is no smoke without fire". It won't harm couples to sit with each other and agree on how they want to run their home. It helps them understand each others dreams and aspirations and also helps to achieve them. It is important to understand that even when we come together as couples, it's okay to differ in some aspects, encourage individuality in a relationship and most of all we need to learn to compromise. I believe that when all that is in place, issues such as "House wife" and "Career wife" will be long sorted out before indeed it becomes an "issue".
As for me, i intend to be a Career wife and mom for the simple reason of being fulfilled in all aspects of my life. I want to be able to support my partner and home financially as well as be there for my kids. It isn't an easy task but you know what they say "nothing good comes easy". I also believe that since it's in line with my purpose, the Lord will back me every step of the way. Once i'm fulfilled and happy, i'm able to make everyone (especially close ones) around me feel the same. "You can't give what you don't have".
My final take on this issue is that we should all identify what makes us happy and work towards it, bearing in mind that sometimes we need to come to a compromise. A compromise that won't hamper our growth but will create room for our partner to grow too. A house wife can find a million and one things to do to occupy her time whilst a career wife can also find a way to make sure that her job doesn't distract her from carrying out her domestic duties. It doesn't also have to be a "9-5" job, it could be an establishment of her own.
May the Lord open the eyes of our understanding to discern that which is proper and may He guide us every step of the way, AMEN!
Whatever you decide, make sure it's in line with your purpose and partner :)
Stay Strong!
20 Jul 2010
16 Jul 2010
Sleep, oh sleep...
Hiya!!! I missed you guys o... I just thought i'd give you all a "breather" yesterday but trust me i was "tempted to blog" :) Se o wa pa? Kedu?... Lol! Don't mind me o, my blog is not supposed to be all stiff and formal so kindly excuse my "goofs" :)
So back to todays' story, in my bid to become a "complete" woman (Physically, Spritually, Mentally, Financially, ...), i decided to go back to my exercise routine. In the past i tried the gym but i got bored, even with the addition of aerobics; i just wasn't motivated to continue (Did i hear someone say "lazy girl"? Na U sabi ). I even tried Salsa dance classes and it was fun while it lasted. Well i haven't ruled it off completely, i just haven't been attending classes due to work and distance. With all those excuses in place, "home girl" was busy packing on the pounds and telling herself that she just looked like a true African woman... lol. Anyway, i got out of my delusion and this time, i opted for early morning jogs but it hasn't been easy o especially because i just started yesterday :)
It's not been easy because all my limbs are beginning to ache (well i haven't worked out in a while) but that's really the least of my concerns. The major pain in d ... is that i have to get up early! Reduce my hours of sleep!! U may not understand my lamentations but people close to me know that i DON'T JOKE with my sleep. Lai lai! If i have to choose between sleep and food, outings, clothes, shoes,... name it (well except God), i will choose "Sleep" anytime. Even if asked when asleep, i will choose sleep...lol. So now you have a fair picture of what i mean... but to be sincere, since i started this new routine i start the day feeling very refreshed and i'll tell you the reason.
Since i will choose sleep over most things, i had to find something that is of great importance to me and that is God. So when i jog in the morning, it isn't only an exercise routine for me; it also serves as my "quiet time". I have my ears plugged and listen to heart warming, life transforming music. It takes me to a different realm, i am reminded once again on how the Lord has been faithful, how i can't thank him enough... I get to have conversations with my maker and together we plan my day... little wonder that for everytime i've done that, i've come out refreshed!
Moreso, the bible says "Do not love sleep or you'll grow poor; stay awake and you'll have food to spare" (Prov. 20: 13). I am not saying that we shouldn't sleep at all but a healthy amount of sleep will do just fine. I'm not a Doctor but i've heard that 6-8 hrs sleep should do just fine so please take heed. I am in the process of "loosing the bondage" of sleep in my life :) and by the grace of God, i'm sure it will happen soon! Don't worry, watch this space cos you'll be reading about pretty soon...
For others out there that may be facing the same "sleep" issue, the first step is to want to handle it; the second and most important step is to let the Lord guide you. Oh, and for the record; "gisting" with God is so much fun! He listens, he really does... You just might want to try it early in the morning?
Stay strong!
So back to todays' story, in my bid to become a "complete" woman (Physically, Spritually, Mentally, Financially, ...), i decided to go back to my exercise routine. In the past i tried the gym but i got bored, even with the addition of aerobics; i just wasn't motivated to continue (Did i hear someone say "lazy girl"? Na U sabi ). I even tried Salsa dance classes and it was fun while it lasted. Well i haven't ruled it off completely, i just haven't been attending classes due to work and distance. With all those excuses in place, "home girl" was busy packing on the pounds and telling herself that she just looked like a true African woman... lol. Anyway, i got out of my delusion and this time, i opted for early morning jogs but it hasn't been easy o especially because i just started yesterday :)
It's not been easy because all my limbs are beginning to ache (well i haven't worked out in a while) but that's really the least of my concerns. The major pain in d ... is that i have to get up early! Reduce my hours of sleep!! U may not understand my lamentations but people close to me know that i DON'T JOKE with my sleep. Lai lai! If i have to choose between sleep and food, outings, clothes, shoes,... name it (well except God), i will choose "Sleep" anytime. Even if asked when asleep, i will choose sleep...lol. So now you have a fair picture of what i mean... but to be sincere, since i started this new routine i start the day feeling very refreshed and i'll tell you the reason.
Since i will choose sleep over most things, i had to find something that is of great importance to me and that is God. So when i jog in the morning, it isn't only an exercise routine for me; it also serves as my "quiet time". I have my ears plugged and listen to heart warming, life transforming music. It takes me to a different realm, i am reminded once again on how the Lord has been faithful, how i can't thank him enough... I get to have conversations with my maker and together we plan my day... little wonder that for everytime i've done that, i've come out refreshed!
Moreso, the bible says "Do not love sleep or you'll grow poor; stay awake and you'll have food to spare" (Prov. 20: 13). I am not saying that we shouldn't sleep at all but a healthy amount of sleep will do just fine. I'm not a Doctor but i've heard that 6-8 hrs sleep should do just fine so please take heed. I am in the process of "loosing the bondage" of sleep in my life :) and by the grace of God, i'm sure it will happen soon! Don't worry, watch this space cos you'll be reading about pretty soon...
For others out there that may be facing the same "sleep" issue, the first step is to want to handle it; the second and most important step is to let the Lord guide you. Oh, and for the record; "gisting" with God is so much fun! He listens, he really does... You just might want to try it early in the morning?
Stay strong!
14 Jul 2010
Who is responsible?....
Hello Dearies, sorry for the late post today. My day has been a bit busy to say the least... Originally, i was going to blog about something else but there was an event i went for today that made me change my mind.
My Dad asked that i represent him at a valedictory/prize winning ceremony of one of our reputable secondary schools in Nigeria .Yes u saw right MY DAD, didn't the Bible say honor your father and mother so that your days will be long? I have a lot of things to do on planet earth o, so i agreed to go :) At first i was so angry; "Couldn't he send someone else? Does he think i'm that jobless? or i play at work? " But i wasn't brave enough to voice out my thoughts, so when he asked i just meekly said "Yes". Hmmm... this life na wa...
But back to the main story, I'm glad that i attended the ceremony because it further opened my eyes to a lot of things. I watched the graduating students rejoice and shout each time they were referred to and it reminded me of the days when i was just like them, when i just couldn't wait to get out of secondary school and being a border then it was like "Freedom here i come". I thought a lot about those times and where i am today, i couldn't help but marvel on how far i have come and how the Lord has kept me. Trust me, it wasn't easy. Again i said, "Baba ese, Chineke Dalu!!!"
But as i watched these students, i didn't have only happy thoughts... I was sad, tears welled up in my eyes... I thought, our leaders of tomorrow, an upcoming generation that God could use to change a lot of things happenning in this country and the world... These ones are opportuned to have good education and training but some of their counterparts have never seen the four walls of any school. My heart bled further, by no fault of theirs some children come into this world and they suffer, they have no one to show them the way, some have no parents to be their role models, some in their quest to be noticed anyhow by the world turn to robbery, prostitution, etc.... Aren't those children also potential leaders of tomorrow? What crime did they commit? Aren't they also children of God? Doesn't God also love them?...
Then it struck me... Even though God has the power to change everything, he doesn't always do so but he has people like you and me that can make the change. He has blessed us with good homes, quality education, good jobs, etc... And what do we do? We still complain that it's not enough, forgetting that there are people that may never have a taste of what we have and they are also God's children. Could it be that the Lord blessed us, to be a blessing to others? Because you see, there is nothing that we have that we didn't recieve so we should also let other people recieve.
There and Then at the ceremony i made up my mind to give, to help in anyway i can. I have always had a passion for the youths and i will start with them, i will start with the ones i can reach, it may not be enough but it is a process. I will not hoard my blessings, I WILL NOT BE RESPONSIBLE for something i could have changed. Baba God i beg no vex, i now understand that i could be your little helper (i'm so honored), i could be someone's angel because again, what is life without giving?
So my dear ones, the question is "Who is responsible"? Are you?
Stay strong!
My Dad asked that i represent him at a valedictory/prize winning ceremony of one of our reputable secondary schools in Nigeria .Yes u saw right MY DAD, didn't the Bible say honor your father and mother so that your days will be long? I have a lot of things to do on planet earth o, so i agreed to go :) At first i was so angry; "Couldn't he send someone else? Does he think i'm that jobless? or i play at work? " But i wasn't brave enough to voice out my thoughts, so when he asked i just meekly said "Yes". Hmmm... this life na wa...
But back to the main story, I'm glad that i attended the ceremony because it further opened my eyes to a lot of things. I watched the graduating students rejoice and shout each time they were referred to and it reminded me of the days when i was just like them, when i just couldn't wait to get out of secondary school and being a border then it was like "Freedom here i come". I thought a lot about those times and where i am today, i couldn't help but marvel on how far i have come and how the Lord has kept me. Trust me, it wasn't easy. Again i said, "Baba ese, Chineke Dalu!!!"
But as i watched these students, i didn't have only happy thoughts... I was sad, tears welled up in my eyes... I thought, our leaders of tomorrow, an upcoming generation that God could use to change a lot of things happenning in this country and the world... These ones are opportuned to have good education and training but some of their counterparts have never seen the four walls of any school. My heart bled further, by no fault of theirs some children come into this world and they suffer, they have no one to show them the way, some have no parents to be their role models, some in their quest to be noticed anyhow by the world turn to robbery, prostitution, etc.... Aren't those children also potential leaders of tomorrow? What crime did they commit? Aren't they also children of God? Doesn't God also love them?...
Then it struck me... Even though God has the power to change everything, he doesn't always do so but he has people like you and me that can make the change. He has blessed us with good homes, quality education, good jobs, etc... And what do we do? We still complain that it's not enough, forgetting that there are people that may never have a taste of what we have and they are also God's children. Could it be that the Lord blessed us, to be a blessing to others? Because you see, there is nothing that we have that we didn't recieve so we should also let other people recieve.
There and Then at the ceremony i made up my mind to give, to help in anyway i can. I have always had a passion for the youths and i will start with them, i will start with the ones i can reach, it may not be enough but it is a process. I will not hoard my blessings, I WILL NOT BE RESPONSIBLE for something i could have changed. Baba God i beg no vex, i now understand that i could be your little helper (i'm so honored), i could be someone's angel because again, what is life without giving?
So my dear ones, the question is "Who is responsible"? Are you?
Stay strong!
13 Jul 2010
This little light of mine...
Hello dearies,
So i didn't let my excitement get a better part of me because trust me the moment i was done with the first blog post, i wanted to do another one :) E be like say this thing dey "shack" me small ... Lol! Anyway, i hope we all had a restful night and our day has gotten off to a good start... I am just very grateful for the gift of life, especially today.
I didn't have a very "restful" night because i was haunted by nightmares, i rarely have them but this one was the second in the past three days. Last nights' own did take the peak and i got up with a real scare. It felt too real to be just a dream. I'm not about to bore you with the gory details but trust me when i was done panicking and praying, i knew there was a lesson to be learnt from it.
U see, Life is indeed a gift. When you slip into that state of unconsciousness called "sleep" and get back to full consciousness the next day, do not think it's your own doing; it is ONLY the grace of God that keeps us. I don't mean to sound morbid but i think as humans, we need to be reminded that we are all here for a purpose and each time we are given the opportunity to see another day; we should make sure it takes us closer to achieving that purpose. It will be a very sad thing to "leave" without achieving our purpose.
I guess what i'm trying to say is; let us try and find out our purpose in life and work towards achieving it. Trust me, the only one who can give you ACCURATE information on that is God. He made you, formed you, breath life into you, the Alpha & Omega... it is by His grace we live. So, you can run all you want but sooner than later, you'll find out that all roads lead to Him.
To live a life without purpose is to live a life that is heading straight for doom. A word they say, is enough for the wise.
As for me, i know it can be very hard especially with all the troubles of the 'world' but i'll try nonetheless, i won't let setbacks deter me from my purpose. When i fall (cos i definitely will), i will get up, i will be reminded that i serve a forgiving God, one who loves me with an everlasting love, a God of second chance, a God who's utmost desire is to bid me "Welcome" when the time is come....
This little light of mine, i'm going to let shine, let it shine, let it shine, let it shine!!!!!
Stay strong!
So i didn't let my excitement get a better part of me because trust me the moment i was done with the first blog post, i wanted to do another one :) E be like say this thing dey "shack" me small ... Lol! Anyway, i hope we all had a restful night and our day has gotten off to a good start... I am just very grateful for the gift of life, especially today.
I didn't have a very "restful" night because i was haunted by nightmares, i rarely have them but this one was the second in the past three days. Last nights' own did take the peak and i got up with a real scare. It felt too real to be just a dream. I'm not about to bore you with the gory details but trust me when i was done panicking and praying, i knew there was a lesson to be learnt from it.
U see, Life is indeed a gift. When you slip into that state of unconsciousness called "sleep" and get back to full consciousness the next day, do not think it's your own doing; it is ONLY the grace of God that keeps us. I don't mean to sound morbid but i think as humans, we need to be reminded that we are all here for a purpose and each time we are given the opportunity to see another day; we should make sure it takes us closer to achieving that purpose. It will be a very sad thing to "leave" without achieving our purpose.
I guess what i'm trying to say is; let us try and find out our purpose in life and work towards achieving it. Trust me, the only one who can give you ACCURATE information on that is God. He made you, formed you, breath life into you, the Alpha & Omega... it is by His grace we live. So, you can run all you want but sooner than later, you'll find out that all roads lead to Him.
To live a life without purpose is to live a life that is heading straight for doom. A word they say, is enough for the wise.
As for me, i know it can be very hard especially with all the troubles of the 'world' but i'll try nonetheless, i won't let setbacks deter me from my purpose. When i fall (cos i definitely will), i will get up, i will be reminded that i serve a forgiving God, one who loves me with an everlasting love, a God of second chance, a God who's utmost desire is to bid me "Welcome" when the time is come....
This little light of mine, i'm going to let shine, let it shine, let it shine, let it shine!!!!!
Stay strong!
12 Jul 2010
WELCOME
12th July, 2010
I am so excited about this new journey that we are about to embark on, i trust God that it will be very fruitful. Firstly, i"ll like to give honor to whom honor is due, My rock of ages, My comfort, My Daddy, My Friend, My all ... "God, i am so grateful for the gift of life and for the opportunity to do this today. Without you, i am nothing".Also, i would like to say a big 'thank you' to a lady who i've never met but inspired me through her book "Diary of a Desperate Nigerian Woman". She is indeed a woman after Gods' own heart and if you
want to be one, please get a copy of the book. It is currently sold at 'Terra culture, VI
I'm not really going to say much today as i am still filled with so much excitement :) I will be sharing with you, my journey through life. Sometimes, it may be a bit bumpy and other times, smooth sailing but the most important thing is that we get to learn a few things from each other that might make this journey a bit more interesting.
One more thing, we are going to refer to "my maker" a lot cos i am absolutely nothing without Him. Even when we fight (trust me we have loads of them) , i know He loves me a great deal . I am no Saint but i am just madly in love with Him and i strive to be more like Him each day. I have come to realize that no one can match Him but since i am made in His own image, i'll keep trying to reflect Him in all i do
Get ready my Darlings, God has something in stock for us , all we have to do is let Him lead the way. I love
U loads and see U tomorrow (i hope this excitement will let me wait) Lol
Stay strong
I am so excited about this new journey that we are about to embark on, i trust God that it will be very fruitful. Firstly, i"ll like to give honor to whom honor is due, My rock of ages, My comfort, My Daddy, My Friend, My all ... "God, i am so grateful for the gift of life and for the opportunity to do this today. Without you, i am nothing".Also, i would like to say a big 'thank you' to a lady who i've never met but inspired me through her book "Diary of a Desperate Nigerian Woman". She is indeed a woman after Gods' own heart and if you
want to be one, please get a copy of the book. It is currently sold at 'Terra culture, VI
I'm not really going to say much today as i am still filled with so much excitement :) I will be sharing with you, my journey through life. Sometimes, it may be a bit bumpy and other times, smooth sailing but the most important thing is that we get to learn a few things from each other that might make this journey a bit more interesting.
One more thing, we are going to refer to "my maker" a lot cos i am absolutely nothing without Him. Even when we fight (trust me we have loads of them) , i know He loves me a great deal . I am no Saint but i am just madly in love with Him and i strive to be more like Him each day. I have come to realize that no one can match Him but since i am made in His own image, i'll keep trying to reflect Him in all i do
Get ready my Darlings, God has something in stock for us , all we have to do is let Him lead the way. I love
U loads and see U tomorrow (i hope this excitement will let me wait) Lol
Stay strong
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